Episode 161 Being well with Lauren
Learn to say no and be happy
Day five MindBody Cleanse – The way of assertiveness
By Lauren Ostrowski Fenton
Today we talk about how learning to say no can allow happiness to flow into our life.
There will be so many moments in your life when people attempt to trample your boundaries, pressure you to please them, or distract you from being yourself. The answer is to have the assertiveness to demarcate your boundaries. The answer is to say no.
Seth Godin says
If you can’t do a good job, don’t take it on.
If it’s going to distract you from the work that truly matters, pass.
If you don’t know why they want you to do this, ask.
If you need to hide it from your mom, reconsider.
If it benefits you but not the people you care about, decline.
If you’re going along with the crowd, that’s not enough.
If it creates a habit that costs you in the long run, don’t start.
If it doesn’t move you forward, hesitate then walk away.
Have a think about a time when someone tried to encourage you to be disloyal to your own values. Were you true to your values? Or did you abandon your values in order to fit in with the group? How did you feel at this time? Being loyal to your sense of self may be challenging but in the end of the day being your authentic self will bring you not only happiness but contentment.